Max Greenfieldis making sure to teach his kids about the importance of compassion.
“We are pretty relaxed about everything, except how they treat and talk to other people. The only time we ever get mad is if we see the kids being thoughtless,” says Sanchez. “They know they always have to be kind and have compassion.”
“We tell them that your friends, your teachers — everyone you meet — has a story, and you should be interested in it,” Greenfield adds.
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The pair also spoke candidly about how they divide up their parenting duties.
While Greenfield says he goes in the “direction of having fun,” his longtime wife says she’s the “nuts and bolts of the operation.”
“I hit the jackpot with Max on the dad front. He’s playful with our kids,” Sanchez says.
“I can take them to the playground, but I need directions on how to get there,” the actor says, as his wife adds, “I’ll make him a laminated map.”
“Now that we have an 11-year-old, parenting is more than just making sure they survive. It’s more emotional,” Greenfield continues. “If Lilly comes to me with something I don’t know how to handle, I’ll say, ‘Let’s go ask Mom.’ It’s not that I avoid difficult questions. It’s that I don’t trust my initial instincts. I move slowly and parenting moves at warp speed. By the time I process everything, Tess has solved it.”
As the couple prepares for their kids to head back to school in person, Greenfield says he’s looking forward to the experience especially “after last year.”
“I remember sitting down with Lilly at the start of remote school and saying, ‘Nobody has ever done this before. Don’t judge yourself. Allow yourself to feel it all. We’ll get through it together,’ " he recalls. “Then, about a month into it, she sat me down and had the same conversation with me!”
source: people.com
